Our parents were a cool lot, I have to say. Each of our milestones were not celebrated on Facebook and neither were our illnesses documented. We were allowed to go out and explore. We FELT the mud and the grass. We hopped about in puddles. We earned the wrath of our elders, but we did it anyway.
Junk food was never an option. Indeed, there weren’t many places to hang out and in any case, we didn’t want to. Money was precious and so was time. We were taught values of both. Our parents didn’t spend a whole lifetime spending their money on gadgets and their time updating their social status.
They were. And they let us be.
What are we doing now?
We complain about lack of time, but the time we get is spent online, not with our children. We feel guilty about not having enough time for them and we buy them costly stuff, toys, electronics – stuff they don’t need.
Whether a child started crawling or didn’t want a meal, everything goes online.
We say each child is different, then we compare our child’s every little aspect with lakhs of other children and reduce our child to a statistic, because hey! we know it all, right?
Wrong. A baby who has come into this world knows nothing. It is up to us to teach our children that they do not have to run a race in which their parents are placing bets.
Everyone gets their childhood only once. Let us do what our parents did to us. Leave them alone!
Love must be unbounded. We spent money on our kids and want return on that. Sometime worry about them too much, just solve their problems quickly, so the kid is always be dependent on us for solving a little proems. Wonderful & real thoughts!!!
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How true !! very rightly said. Every child and the journey is unique and we need to respect that
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Good article and yes I do believe in letting the kid be!
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i so belive in this. helicopter parenting never works.
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Yes most important let them be.. now we are more strict on everything with our kids
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I could relate to it. And I admit I was always online and complained about not having enough time for the kid. Although, I have been making a conscious effort now to be around. And yes, I also believe in letting the kid be – unless dangerous, i don’t care what she does.
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Yes. There is a thin line between ignoring and letting them be. Need to tread carefully.
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We need to strike a balance. Save ourselves and the kids from the rat race yet at the same instill in them the sense of right and wrong. Often, we end up expecting too much of our kids without really appreciating their specific strengths. It’s time we embrace them wholly.
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